Self-Care Sunday Interview With Annika Spalding

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Introduce yourself – tell us a little bit about yourself:

Hey! I’m Annika Spalding and I began as a single mum with a dream.

Right now? I’m a Writing Coach, a public speaker, a university student, and an award-winning author.

 

How do you define self-care and what does it mean to you?:

I used to think I was really great at self-care until I started to feel drained and burnt out.

I overlooked my needs to fulfil the many roles I play in my life, and it had a negative impact on my physical and mental health.

Self-care right now means to take care of my holistic needs. It’s not enough that I focus only on mental stimulation, I have to eat properly, make sure I get enough sleep and have regular breaks from whatever I am doing.

It means switching off from social media so I don’t feel overwhelmed, and speaking to my friends when I start feeling low.

Ultimately, it means taking care of my health and wellbeing in every possible way, because there’s no other person but me who is responsible for that.

 

I aim to pour positivity into my mind daily, whether it be a positive quote that I share, listening to an uplifting podcast or working on something that makes me feel good.

 

Why is self-care important, particularly for women?:

As women, we wear so many different hats.

Myself as an example, I’m a mum, a friend, a student, a writing coach, an author, a freelance writer, a public speaker, a granddaughter, an aunt, an ex-partner etc. It’s almost never-ending!

In all these roles that we play, we rarely allocate time just for ourselves, outside of all that responsibility. And when we do take time for ourselves? We feel guilty for it.

But the way that I see it, how on earth can we do everything else well if we aren’t taking care of ourselves.

We can’t pour from an empty cup!

Nothing will operate if we’re broken down and burned out. So self-care is a must if we want to continue to take care of everything and everyone else.

 

How do you practice self-care in your daily life?:

This is a wonderful question, mostly because I am not the best example of what it means to practice self-care. But I’m trying.

I deleted Snapchat recently because I felt I was giving away too much of myself.

I felt I needed to save some of me for me, even though I wasn’t showing every detail of my life. But I was also spending too much time watching other people’s lives and using that to criticise my own.

I aim to pour positivity into my mind daily, whether it be a positive quote that I share, listening to an uplifting podcast or working on something that makes me feel good.

 

When I’m having a horrible day, I run a beautiful bubble bath. I light candles and pour a glass of wine. I find a podcast on my phone and I lay in the bath for as long as possible.

 

What part of your self-care routine is most important to you? And is there one that is vital to you even when you’re having the worst day?:

I wish I had a self-care routine set out, but I don’t yet. I do believe in starting my day with a positive thought, and this usually translates to the first thing I share on Instagram, all of which I do before I get out of my bed.

When I’m having a horrible day, I run a beautiful bubble bath. I light candles and pour a glass of wine. I find a podcast on my phone and I lay in the bath for as long as possible.

When I get out, I put my favourite pyjamas on and then either read or write. Sometimes I watch a film.

I try to stay away from social media because it often makes things worse, so I find it is better to bring myself to a place of inner peace (or as close as possible) and bring my chaotic mind to a sense of calm.

 

What is your biggest challenge when it comes to self-care?:

My biggest challenge when it comes to self-care is actually doing it in the first place.

I’ll be honest, if someone was to ask me for advice on self-care I’d be able to guide them. But I find I have to push myself to incorporate it into my own life.

I’m often the last one to realise when I need rest or when I need to switch off, which is not great. But I’m learning to have balance, to listen to my body and give it what it needs.

 

Don’t feel like you have to do ten things every day, remember it’s often the small steps we take each day that makes a greater impact.

 

What do you think are some of the most common misconceptions about self-care?:

A common misconception about self-care could be that it’s selfish. I don’t agree with that though, I think we all have a responsibility to take care of ourselves first. Nobody benefits from our care, love, and support when we’re just not feeling at our best.

I think, like self-love, self-care is often assumed to be about bubble baths and wine. Even though I have mentioned that myself, I want to say that self-care is mostly about creating an opportunity for your mind and your body to rest, refocus and refuel.

For me personally, I could be sat in a bath or a coffee shop, it doesn’t matter. What matters is that I’ve given myself a time-out so that I can bring myself back to a state of calm.

 

What tips, resources or advice can you share for anyone struggling with self-care?:

I’d suggest writing down a list of self-care activities or practice.

Create a self-care routine that is visual, that you can simply look at when you need to and put into practice immediately.

Don’t feel like you have to do ten things every day, remember it’s often the small steps we take each day that makes a greater impact.

So perhaps explore what one thing you can do each day for you, to make you feel good, to help quieten your loud thoughts, and have that as part of your morning or evening routine.

At the moment, I feel like I’m witnessing an uprising of women and it’s inspirational to witness.

 

What are your favourite self-care mantras, quotes, poems, songs, books or movies?:

My favourite self-care mantra is “Stop lying to yourself!” – Let me explain. I say this out loud in response to my negative thoughts. It actually works!

I love quotes in general, I don’t have a preference at the moment.

The classic Mariah Carey albums are amazing for boosting your mood. I’m a fan anyway, but I’ve found putting on an MC playlist and singing along to the words helps me feel good. If you pay attention to her lyrics, they’re actually very uplifting.

My friend Natasha Benjamin has recently written a book called One Daily Step, which is about self-care and helps you put it into practice. It’s definitely worth a read.

 

What is the most important advice would you give to your younger self?:

Dear Younger Self,

It’s going to be hard but you’re strong and you’ll be more than okay.

Please ask for help when you need it. You can do it alone, but why struggle if you don’t have to?

 

What is your hope for your future and the future of women?:

At the moment, I feel like I’m witnessing an uprising of women and it’s inspirational to witness. I hope that it continues, that women realise their worth, their skills and their power, and that overall that has a ripple effect on the next generation.

 

Connect with Annika

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Website: www.annikaspalding.com

Instagram: @annika_spalding

Twitter: @annikaspalding

Facebook: @annikaspalding

 

 

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