Self-Care Sunday Interview with Mariam Bashorun

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Introduce yourself – tell us a little bit about yourself

I am a 20 something blogger and founder of the Black British Bloggers Network.


How do you define self-care and what does it mean to you?

Self-care is making time to actually take care of yourself. Mentally, physically and everything in between.

For me it’s a way to get myself centred, keep my anxiety in check and avoiding that much dreaded burn out.


Why is self-care important, particularly for women?

I think society as a whole tends to underestimate how much of a slog life is and women especially have a tendency to take on so much.

We’ve normalised working to exhaustion during the week and spending the weekend getting a head start on the following week.

It’s not unusual in my friendship group to work on the weekend despite doing 40+ hours in the week. If it’s not work, it’s family and social commitments which yes isn’t work but it’s not exactly time for yourself.

Self-care encourages you to hop off the treadmill that is modern life and check in with yourself. It’s a chance to do a little self-reflection and make sure that you are actually enjoying life and not just going through the motions.


I’m still trying to unlearn the idea that if it’s not work, it is not important.


How do you practice self-care in your daily life?

In all honesty, I struggle with daily self-care.

As I work for myself, I have a tendency to work until the job is done. This sometimes means I’m hunched over my laptop late into the night.

I am trying to change my daily routine to allow for at least 20 minutes of yoga at the end of the day. Yoga works for me as it quiets the noise and I can switch off even if it’s just for a little while.

I’m much better at allocating an afternoon or evening once a week that is just about doing what I enjoy. This could be a long soak in the tub or spending an afternoon in a gallery or at the cinema.

I also journal once a week.


What part of your self-care routine is most important to you? And is there one that is vital to you even when you’re having the worst day?

My journal plays a large role in my self-care routine and is probably the most important.

When I’m having a bad day and can’t see the wood for the trees, pouring my feelings into my journal helps me focus. My mind stops racing and my problems no longer seem impossible.


Self-care is a personal process


What is your biggest challenge when it comes to self-care?

Making time.

I’m a big fan of to-do lists. I have one for the month, one for the week and one for each day.

I rarely complete these lists and the first thing to get skipped over are things not work related.

I’m still trying to unlearn the idea that if it’s not work, it is not important.


What do you think are some of the most common misconceptions about self-care?

The most common misconception is that it’s self-indulgent and excessive.

There is a tendency to assume it’s weekly spa days and pamper sessions.

Self-care isn’t grand gestures. It’s in the little day to day things you do to make sure you are physically and mentally nourished.


For the future of women, I really hope we shake off the shackles of patriarchy.


What tips, resources or advice can you share for anyone struggling with self-care?

Self-care is a personal process and while it’s interesting to read about other people’s experiences don’t let it define yours.

Self-care can take many forms. I like yoga but you might find solace reading a book or repeating affirmations every morning.

Find something that works for you.


What is the most important advice would you give to your younger self?

Success is a pretty subjective thing.

Don’t get caught up in looking like a success instead work on being the version of yourself that makes you the happiest.


What is your hope for your future and the future of women?

My hope for my future is that I am able to keep enjoying what I do.

I do feel very privileged in that I wake up every morning and do exactly what I want to do.

I run my own business, a business that serves my community and creates an environment that fosters creativity and collaboration within the Black British community. I honestly don’t want to do anything else.

For the future of women, I really hope we shake off the shackles of patriarchy. It’s an insidious thing that shapes so much of how we live our lives.

I really hope the policies that govern our lives become more woman-centred and we feel able to take up more space.


Connect with Mariam


Twitter: @bb_bloggers
Instagram: @blackbritishbloggers



2 thoughts on “Self-Care Sunday Interview with Mariam Bashorun

  • at 11:38 pm

    This is a great interview and so lovely to find out a little bit more about the Queen behind Black British Bloggers! I haven’t tried yoga myself but a friend recommended it to me recently as a way to help me sleep.

  • at 4:46 pm

    Have you tried working with essential oils re: your sleep? Apparently, they’re supposed to work really well. Also, this may sound really “woo woo” but recently when I was having real trouble sleeping because my brain was in overdrive, I placed a clear quartz crystal under my pillow after reading it was good for anxiety, and it seemed to work. It could be in my head, but either way, it worked.

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